Responsibility

An exert from Mr. Proctors essay "Responsibility"

Responsibility
By Bob Proctor

Dr. Rollo May, a distinguished psychiatrist, once wrote, “The opposite of courage in our
society is not cowardice, it is conformity.” It requires great courage to take responsibility
for your life. It’s so much easier to blame someone else or something outside of you.
George Bernard Shaw said, “People are always blaming their circumstances for what
they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the
people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them,
they make them.” I believe Shaw was right. In my opinion, those who win big in life
take responsibility and create their own destiny.

Earlier on it was suggested that responsibility brings with it a certain amount of freedom.
For some, these last few paragraphs may be life-altering. And, with the proper
understanding, I guarantee it has the power to free you of unnecessary mental weight that
you may have been carrying around with you all of your life. The concept to which I’m
referring has been misunderstood by so many and has probably single-handedly ruined
more lives than one can possibly imagine. Ignorance of this principle will most certainly
cause a person to experience the destructive emotions of anger, guilt and resentment.

Here it is: there is a vast difference between being responsible “for” and being
responsible “to.” It seems so simple, but I don’t want you to let its apparent simplicity
fool you. I’m going to repeat it again. There is a big difference between being
responsible “for” and being responsible “to.”

It’s not uncommon to hear parents blame themselves and assume responsibility for
something that has happened to their child, and that child might be 40 years old! “If only
we ...” Or, “I should have …” Far too often we inappropriately assume responsibility for
something, when in fact our real duty to the person may have ended 20 years ago.
Unfortunately for most, they carry that baggage around with them for life, never realizing
they have a choice.

The correct interpretation of this is: you are responsible FOR your feelings and your
results - not another person's. You may be responsible TO another person for one thing
or another, but not FOR another person. The exception, of course, is when you choose to
take on the responsibility of raising children until they reach the age of maturity. In that
case, you are both responsible TO and FOR them, until such time as they become
responsible for themselves.

At times, it might even be appealing to contemplate having another person take on our
responsibilities for us. We could even trick ourselves into believing that by doing this,
we would be more free to play, have fun and do the things we wanted. Without serious
thought, it might never enter our mind that exactly the opposite would happen. When
you permit others to take on your responsibilities, you become dependent on them. They
become the giver and you become the receiver. Your well-being is dependent upon their
generosity. Hopefully, at some point, it will become very clear that this kind of
behaviour only leads to a life of lack, limitation, resentment and confusion on the parts of
both the giver and the receiver.

Color Your Way To Success!

The quickest way to tell if you are talking to a RED Personality is if they are self-contained and direct.

A further clue is if they constantly talk about themselves, their achievements and money, money, money.

A Red's motto is: Get out of my way!!

Their voice is forceful with volume. They dress for success, and many are the CEO, Attorney, Pilot, Military Colonel. Think 'The Donald.'

You will hear them say things like: Power, Get to the point, Bottom line, MONEY.

Most Red's are not open to coaching. Only if life has kicked them in the pants a bit, them maybe they would be open to a bit of coaching.

Many network marketers DREAM of having a Red on their team. They are amazing producers. They are the best negotiators, and have energy to burn. They take risks and are great leaders.

Watch out, though. They think they are always right, they think they are perfect, and are the only ones with an idea. They are domineering and short-tempered.

For more information and training on the personality colors download my free e-book:

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And get the Colors To Success CD.

Color Your Way To Success!

There was a brief intermission here due to the holiday celebrations! I hope all yours were peaceful, happy and abundant!! Now on to the next personality color, one of my favorites, is the Yellow.

The quickest way to tell if you are talking to a Yellow is if the are open and indirect.

Yellow's motto is: 'Let's be friends!'

I love being around the Yellows because they like to bring the food, serve it up, and will take care of the clean-up afterwords.

I'm practically immune to doing these gestures, being a Blue.

Yellows LOVE to help! They are the teachers, the counselors, the youth pastors, the nurses, the therapists.

They are dependable team-players who are supportive, patient and nurturing. You want lots of Yellows on your team. They are phenomenal business builders and are very loyal.

Their weakness if they have one, is that they are overly sensitive. You may have to do a lot of apologizing with a Yellow. They are followers and sometimes not goal-oriented.

Key words to use with Yellows are: Team, family, together, relationship, help.

They dislike pushy people, bullies and conflict.

Is Your Company A 5 Pillar Company? Part 4

Does the compensation plan pay part-time people?

95% of networkers are part-time people.

Make sure that people can make a decent income working a few hours per week.

Beware of companies that advertise how many millionaires they have created.

Make sure it's not at the expense of those "at the bottom". Everyone should be able to benefit.

Take the Comp Plan Test - Ask yourself this question:

"How many people do I need on my Team to earn a recurring income check of $500 per month?"

• There are companies out there that require as many as 500 and as few as 20.

• It's not unusual to see well-established companies that require 150 to 350 people and
they are still able attract new distributors - Amazing! They must be sold on the product!

• If your upline won't or can't answer this basic question, You should Run.

If you are making only 5% to 8% commissions on product, You are being extremely underpaid.

If a company stresses "Recruit, Recruit, Recruit!", You should "Run, Run, Run!"

The purpose of any business is moving product from the company to the end-consumer.

The majority of your commissions MUST come from product sales; otherwise, it is a SCAM.

And if you work a plan that Does Not pay on product volume, somewhere in the process You will lose money!

More important: You will lose Credibility Too!

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Is Your Company A 5 Pillar Company? Part 3

The third Pillar to look for in a company is the product. All MLM companies have a good product,

or else they wouldn't be in business. But there are others available that are just as good!

The product should be competitively priced.

If the product has both Retail and Wholesale price, STAY AWAY! Most people will only join your team to get the wholesale price discount. They won't build the business!

Here are some BIG RED FLAGS:

If the product would not sell without the business opportunity attached to it, it is

ILLEGAL!

If you can't pay with a credit card, and MUST pay buy cash or money order, it is ILLEGAL!

If the distributors collect the money while the company stays at arms length, it is

ILLEGAL!

If you MUST have a Retail Merchant account the company is SCAMMING YOU!

When you begin to justify your product to someone, you become a salesperson.

A word of CAUTION: Network Marking is a RELATIONSHIP business, not a SALES business.

Is Your Company A 5 Pillar Company? Part 2

Has the company passed the "early failure" Time Line?? Are the companies products Products timed with the beginning of a massive trend in consumer demand??


Beware of "ground floor opportunities" and start-up companies. There should be no rush to get in on the "ground floor".

Ninety-nine percent of companies don't last two years. If a company is good today, it will be great tomorrow.

MOST people don't make money in the first two years while the company is dealing with start-up issues. And note I said MOST people, not the Heavy Hitters.

Profit comes after two years, join then.

Avoid the companies that have gone on beyond their "momentum phase" and have become household names. The realistic potential for big growth is gone.

DO NOT join a company with a product that has no profit margin! ie: a Long Distance Service or a Vinyl Record Company.

Think like a boomer, (there is two groups of these now) what are they looking for... NOW??

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Is Your Company A 5 Pillar Company? Part 1

The first Pillar is Company Management with Experience and Integrity.

Get to know WHO they are, and WHAT their backgrounds are:

Search Google for the owners of the company.

Do the owners have Integrity?

Add the word ’Scam’ to your search.

Do the owners have a Corporate background or an in-the-field Network Marketing background?

Read your "Policies & Procedures" and "Terms & Conditions"; both are part of your Legal Contract.

Look for the word "Ongoing".

Look for policies that strike you as "Unreasonable".
Like "Termination, with or without cause".

Ask yourself "Does this contract protect me or the company?"

"Is it clear which way it leans?"

Does the company charge you for training or a company web site?

Does the company charge you for each paycheck they send you?

These are the people who will be signing your checks. You are depending on these people to lead the company that will help you "Own Your Life". You are depending on them to have a solid business that you can build to pay your childrens’ children.

Are they dependable??

RULES OF THUMB:

The longer the contract, the greater the possibility that the policies important to you are being hidden in "Legalese"!

If it’s a "Cash Only" business...It’s a Scam!

If you can buy a position at the top...It’s a Scam!

If you are offered a "Special Deal"...the playing field isn’t level for all.

If the products are sold on eBay at a greatly reduced price...Buy there instead. If a company is publicly traded, Financial Decisions Will be made in Favor of the Stockholders at the Expense of the Distributors.

You want to protect yourself and the business you are building. You are putting a lot of yourself into your business. Get the facts. If you need a lawyer to read the company Policies, it’s probably not the company for you.

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No Good Deed Goes Unpunished! Part 2

Another exert from Micheal Dlouhy's ebook:

People ask me:

° "Your e-book is great! Why on earth do you give it away for free??"

°"Your telephone training is great! Why is it free??"

°"Your 'Colors" CD is great! Why is it so cheap??"

°"Why do you help me for free when I'm not in your company??"
.... and a dozen other variations.

In the early 1990's, I joined over 100 MLM opportunities. I tracked, I cataloged,

analyzed and evaluated EVERYTHING they did: products, compensation plans,

marketing, distributor support, profitability, etc.

The Ugly Results

I'm a fun-loving, easy-going guy. But my teeth clenched and my fingers curled into

fists of rage. I was stunned by how many companies and "Heavy Hitters" make HUGE

profits NOT on product sales, but instead by selling a ton of worthless marketing

materials to the distributors who traust and believe in them!

I get mad just thinking about it. This is why you find widespread cynicism &

skepticism amongst network marketers.

I can't blame them.

But you should hear the calls I get from people trying to figure out how I'm going

to bamboozle them.

First, they figure I'm trying to steal their people.

Fact is, they don't HAVE any people. None who trust them, anyway. Many up-lines'

idea of support is to tell you the lies we'll cover in Chapter 1.

TRUE support is to take you by the hand and lead you through every step of this

business, so you can actually experience it in real time and get good at it. THAT is

what we do on our phone calls...No company is ever mentioned on those calls. No

product is mentioned. No one is ever recruited.

Some people figure our calls must be rigged so anybody who calls gets billed on

their phone bill!

Listen. Our MLM business brings good income, thank you. Our tools & phone calls

support our people. And they work their butts off. And Linda & I love them and

appreciate them.

We owe everything to this business. It tortures me to hear people denigrate network

marketing because of the greed of some companies and their "Super Star Reps."

I don't do ANYTHING in life that isn't fun. Whatever I do, I do it because I love it.

So I do what I can to balance the scales. I choose to support with every fiber of my

body ANYONE who invests their hopes & dreams & life into this industry. It

makes my day to help keep their spark alive.

I will train anyone for free. No strings. I am not threatened by anyone or any

company in this industry.

But I do understand that they are threatened by me. Most STILL don't take the time

and make the commitment to train their own people.

A word for the "Still Skeptical:" I get the skepticism. Really. But enough is

enough. Get over it. If you wnat to live your life distrusting everybody, then your

life is pretty much over, anyway. Goodbye, good luck. Don't let the door hit you in

the butt on the way out.

For everyone else: Let's get started!

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No Good Deed Goes Unpunished Part 1

An exert from Michael Dlouhy's Success In Ten Steps:

Listen carefully,

I'm well aware yor intentions were gallant: to provide for your family all the things YOU never had, to spend more quality time with them, to help others like yourself grow and prosper.

And remember what happened next??

You were lied to. You were "leveraged". The Heavy Hitters used you for batting practice. You got thrown in the muck, untrained, unprepared. Your checking account was drained. Your credit cards were maxed out. Friends and relatives screened your phone calls.

Then you looked in the mirror and called yourself, "Loser!"

I know, I know.

It started because you want the same things I wanted.

You want to be your own boss, answer to no one... and earn a good living doing it. You want to go where you want, when you want. You want to spend $200 on dinner without batting an eye.

You want precious time NOW with those you love. You want the money & freedom to take a day off-or 2 weeks off-and maybe fly away to some far away island on whim.

You want to work and socialize with people you like and admire, who share your outlook on life and your goals. You want the self-satisfaction of achieving your goals, and the self-fulfillment of helping others reach theirs. You want financial independence.

You DON'T want more rejection.
You DON'T want to have to sell anything to anyone.
And you sure DON'T want another MLM.

Good stuff. Holy mackerel, sounds just like ME!

So here I am. I have no choice but to write this book. Truly, no control. You'll read why in Chapter 2.

But here's what I do control: This book is free. No company is mentioned or promoted. No opportunity is mentioned or promoted.

You'll find 20 tons of e-books all over the internet, full of affiliate links. Trust them at your own peril, because they profit on every recommendation they make.

My purpose is to share what I've learned in nearly 30 years in network marketing, and present a 10-step success plan you can use with ANY network marketing opportunity.

The plan is NOT easy.

But it's simple.

It's NOT "I'll do all the work FOR you."

It only works if YOU do.

It's NOT "get-rich-quick."

But you can create a lifetime residual income.

What's in it for me, you ask? That question is answered in Chapters 2 & 5. Don't worry. Helping you helps me. It's part of my giving back to this great industry.

I wish you the absolute best, and I hope you use this information. It could change your life.

Are you game? Then read on!

To download the full version of my good friend and mentor, Michael Dlouhy's book, click on the link below:

Success In Ten Steps

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